You can fall in love with a serial killer but that doesn’t mean you should be with him.


You can fall in love with a serial killer but that doesn’t mean you should be with him. 17. ágúst 2009 14:12 Have you ever fallen in love with the wrong person? How can it be the wrong person if we are in love with them. Won’t that make everything alright? Absolutely not! You can fall in love with a serial killer but that doesn’t mean you should be with him. So how can you avoid falling in love with someone who is totally wrong for you? It is not as simple as it seems but I have come up with a few tips to help you in your search for your soul mate. Almost everyone has been in love at some point in their lives. If we are lucky, we have fond memories of falling in love but unfortunately it doesn’t always stay that way. Sometimes falling in love with the wrong person can be downright painful. Especially when love seems to come right out of left field and ambush you. Do you know that feeling? When you fall hard for someone who is not even close to being right for you. How about when you fall in love with someone who is not in love with you. Oh wait here is the killer you fall in love with someone who does nothing but make you feel bad. Sometimes the person we think is the one, our soul mate the love of our lives is the one person we should not be with. They may even be very nice, great in fact but just bring out the worst in us. Push our buttons, cause us to retreat into ourselves or behave in an unbecoming manor. What is with us? Why do we stay in these relationships and why on earth would we allow ourselves to get sucked in to this kind of situation. Why doesn’t the heart understand that falling in love is reserved for the right one, the soul mate, the ying to your yang not the wrong one, the” I am wasting my time” or the “used to be different” type of person. Definitely not the low down person you happen to be unlucky enough to meet on that unlucky day. There have been countless times when I have been chatting with a friend only to find out that they have fallen in love with the wrong person. They don’t always realize it. Sometimes they even seem to believe they are in love with the one, but always in the end whether it takes 2 weeks 2 years or 20 years they realize it. I often think about what it is we are doing wrong and how we can avoid this and here are my conclusions. #1 Watch out for red flags, just like stop signs they will still be there tomorrow. #2 Listen to what they say and actually hear it, you might just learn something of value that will shine some light on their personality. #3 Think with your head not your heart. You heard me! #4 Don’t beat a dead horse when you see patterns that you know are destructive accept it and move on. #5 Be honest with yourself, if everyone around you can see the problems maybe you just need to open your eyes and see it to. #6 Respect yourself, if that person is not at your level nothing will change that. #7 Realize that love should not be the deciding factor in a relationship. Because you can love a serial killer but that doesn’t mean you should be with him. So what can we do when love sneaks into our hearts like a snake in the grass causing us to fall in love with the wrong person. How about recognizing it, accepting it, learning from it and moving on. Get out and stay out. That’s right love hurts especially after a breakup, but it doesn’t have to hurt forever.

 

 Drifa Ulfarsdottir The Dating, Divorce and Destiny Coach

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  1. really enjoyed reading this

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